In his introduction, Mbah Hasyim explains the motivation behind the book: many santri had reached a mature age, ready to embark on married life, yet lacked a proper understanding of its pillars, conditions, and etiquette. This gap prompted him to create a practical guide, Dhau al Mishbah as preparation before marriage.
His care for students is evident in how the book is structured. It is divided into three parts: the opening chapter, the second chapter, and a closing section that discusses the rights of both الزوج and wife. This clear segmentation allows readers to focus on one core topic at a time, making the learning process more accessible.
With such a structure, the book becomes remarkably easy to grasp. Each discussion is centered on a single point, enriched by references to various scholarly opinions. This not only adds depth but also strengthens its arguments, making them more resilient. At the same time, it reflects Mbah Hasyim’s humility—inviting readers to consider multiple perspectives rather than imposing a single view.
The opening chapter explores the laws of marriage. It presents a range of perspectives, including the purposes of marriage: continuing lineage, safeguarding chastity, and fulfilling acts of worship that carry rewards in the hereafter. Interestingly, the legal ruling on marriage is not fixed, it shifts depending on one’s circumstances.